Making a Difference

I received a huge response to my e-mail earlier this fall about the Center making a difference in our member's lives.  Here are some of the comments that I'm thrilled to share with you:

I hate going to clubs and bars.  It is as if I can feel the desperation radiating off of the dance floor at every single club I go to.  Moreover, at most of the "cool" clubs my friends like to go to, I feel judged by how I dance, how I dress, etc.  When I go to the Grind, I go to dance.  The music is (usually) good and I know that anyone who is looking at me is doing so because they want to.  There are far prettier things and far kinkier things going on, so if they want to look at me, I'm down with that.

I Thank you for providing a safe place for this straight, mostly vanilla boy to shake his groove thang.

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Like most people I was brought to Wet Spot by someone who knew me better than I knew myself. It wasn't an awakening. I was already kinky. But it was eye-opening in its own way. I didn't know that so many other people shared my views and held other interesting ideas. Knowing the people I'm a part of helped me better understand how the world looks at kink right or wrong and gave me a better sense of myself, more confidence to be the animal I am and better tools to explore that side of myself. It seems like such a small thing in the scope of a life but over time it has changed me powerfully.

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I live in Vancouver, BC Canada.  I have been down to the Wet Spot a few times.  I love attending and participating in the first Friday of the month Women's Only Play Party.  The drive is well worth it.  I have brought my female friends down with me and they had a great time as well.

I love the inclusivity of the group of women that attend and volunteer at the Wet  Spot.  From the very first time I was there I felt safe and comfortable.  I truly appreciate the Dungeon Ambassadors, they are very approachable and easy to talk to.  They are more than happy to answer all your questions.  It is a nice touch to start the evening off with a workshop, too.

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My experience with this group likely is not typical at all.  I joined several years ago and attended a couple of events ... an introduction and a simple evening.  I never came back.  Why?  I don't know.  Maybe because my life is fairly active and I haven't had much time.  More likely because I wasn't sure how to relate to the group, feeling older than most and not sure how/whether I'd fit in.  But, I remain interested in the group and its activities and enjoy the many updates.  I frequently wonder if/when I will attend an event.  Maybe this is just a vicarious involvement with sexual freedom.

So, this is a simple little story of a rather distant soul getting something from this group ... without knowing anyone or participating in any direct way.  For this I thank you.  One day soon I'll manage to get there and actually say hello.

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Where to begin? Seems like the beginning would be best, but I will start with the middle. I met my husband, life partner and true submissive at the Wet spot,5 yrs ago . *S* I first saw him on a rack, taking quite a beating, I thought mmmm, Who is that!  He came over to the table where I was watching him and I was purchasing a knife, *S*. Who would have ever thought............... ! ?

But backing up.... I have learned so much, met so many cool, intelligent and creative people!!!! One of the huge things for me was the ultimate shift I had in relating to men, making room for them in a new way, having my heart open in a very healing way by my first play partner and ultimately meeting XXXX who became my submissive, my love, my friend and ultimately my husband.

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Wet Spot is the most comfortable place to play. No "judgments" for (I'm a Saturday Night person) all are there to play or watch. It is amazing! Asking someone to play gets either a positive "Let's negotiate" response or a polite refusal. Even better, it feels OK to refuse or just talk.